#Identity Crisis- Self Worth

What do you think you are worth?

No, please don’t picture the life you wish for or your ideal situation.

Based on your life right now what life/relationship/friendship/ e.t.c do you think you are worth?

If what you think you’re worth doesn’t match or exceed your ideal situation, then, you have a tainted view of your self-worth.

Worth is the level at which someone or something deserves to be valued or rated. However in the case of us Christians, you aren’t worth it because you are deserving of it, you are worth it because of his grace. You can tell the worth of something by how much it’s valued at and you were valued at the cross, with the Saviours blood.You see, I used to get it wrong, thinking “oh if I do A, B or C then I’d be worth it” but I’ve come to understand that what I am worth is not because of what I do but because of who I am and that is God’s chosen one, his daughter. 

 

For the longest time, I settled for less than what I desired for myself and what I was worth simply because I wasn’t fully aware of what exactly I was worth in the first place. I have found my self in toxic relationships and friendships with people where I was treated below what God intended for my life and I stuck with them because I either wasn’t sure I could find better let alone was worth I better and I was too scared to let go in case that truly was the best I could do for myself. But those dear reader, are lies. Lies that the devil feeds us daily telling us we are even lucky to be in that situation because we aren’t worthy of that talk less of much more, lies of how Gods’ promises come to past but surely not in our own lives because we do not qualify for it. As I wrote last weeks post, I realised that how much I valued myself and what I deemed myself worthy of was almost a direct reflection of how I saw myself. Essentially, an Identity crisis leads to a self-worth crisis.Sometimes we accept what we wouldn’t ordinarily accept because we have a tainted image of ourselves and we think we would never find better because we aren’t exactly sure we are worthy of better.

 

Wrong!!!!

 

You are worthy of not just better but the best. God came that you may have life and life abundantly, not so you could merely be surviving.

 

As my gap year draws to an end, I have been doing a lot of reflection on how the year has progressed and how much I have grown through all the challenges that I have endured and one of the most important things I’ve come to a conclusion on is that, I am worth it. And so are you. However, though as Christians we are all entitled to God's perfect will and desires for our lives, I believe that the choices we make determine the future we experience. You being worthy of something doesn’t mean that thing will be served to you on a platter of gold. You don’t have to work for what you’re worthy of but you have to work to get it. So, in order to enjoy the life, you are worthy of living, you need to, first of all, live like you are worth it. Confusing, I know.

Here are some not so easy but very important steps to take in order to step into the life you are worthy of living.

  • Remember, if the one who sees you completely (your flaws your imperfections, your insecurities and even your SINS), if he loves you just the way you are, why should you care if someone who doesn’t know even half of who you are, judges you and doesn’t like you? Be it that really attractive girl/boy, that super cool group of people, that aunt e.t.c. why should your self-worth and Identity be found in them who are probably also relying on others for their own self-worth? Rise up and affirm yourself in Christ.
  • Leave those toxic relationships and friendships and stop settling for less. No buts, it’s as plain as day, you are worth more.
  • Surround yourself with people who know their self-worth and would help remind you of yours. If your “squad” is unaware best believe you’d soon begin to compromise.
  • Remind yourself how God sees you and remind yourself of his promises for your life.
  • Stop doing things that people who are worthy of receiving God’s promises won’t do. God’s grace is sufficient but that doesn’t mean be foolish. That amazing life God has promised you isn’t coming to you while you sleep on your bed. Get up and work it like you’re worth it because you are.

Love Always, 

Motunrayo